December 2010
1 post
Missing
January 23, 2005. It was a cold Sunday night. Cold nights were not typical in Fayetteville, North Carolina; it was a nice change. I was allowed to go to a nine o’clock movie with my friend Elizabeth. I begged and pleaded until finally my parents had agreed. I was 15, and beyond excited to be out so late on a school night. We had tried to go to the earlier showing of Phantom of the Opera, but it...
November 2010
1 post
A New Introduction.
Pam was a sixteen year old girl. There wasn’t much special about her if you didn’t know her. The way her brown hair stuck to her head near the roots wasn’t exactly a tantalizing look, nor were her baggy tees or ill fitted jeans. However, if you even took a moment to talk to her, you noticed a spark in the midst of her enormous blue eyes. This is what would draw you in. As just a...
July 2010
1 post
Motivation is key.
Once again I have to apologize for slacking with the posts. It has been very difficult to keep myself motivated with this project almost all summer. Let me share with you why.
At the beginning of the summer I had a bit of a misunderstanding with an old friend and others affiliated with the said friend. At the end of the argument, which included many harsh words, the friend accused me of not being...
April 2010
2 posts
Update
Hey all. I am sorry there have not been many posts. As you know I am still a student and trying to finish up this semester so that I may then begin focusing on Missing You once again.
Today I had a revelation of sorts with the novel. I have realized that many things have fallen behind my personal schedule because I have not been pushy enough or had the confidence to believe that this is going to...
April 2005
Dear Pam,
Today is April 5, 2005. Your grandparents are buying two billboards. We’re going to have a carwash here to help raise money to pay for them. I know you’d flip if you ever saw your face on a billboard. Can you imagine?
Lunch is beginning to drag, and eventually I may just go to the library. Poor Peter is bored sitting with us, and Harrison usually retreats to the...
March 2010
1 post
The Candlelight Vigil
Dear Pam,
Today is March 18, 2005. Wednesday, the 16th, we had a candlelight vigil for you. It went really well. Lots of people showed up, and most of them cried.
It was so draining. I don’t think I have many tears left. I spoke two times, and was interviewed by two TV stations; on all the stations I saw the vigil, they showed me crying. You remember Miss Caroline, who does...
February 2010
2 posts
February letters.
Dear Pam,
Today is February 15, 2005. This past weekend you’ve been gone for three weeks. “Missing You had a thing in the Big Lots parking lot and they gave us posters to put up. They replaced that old, old picture with your school one. It makes it a little better (the flyer, I mean). Your grandma/grandpa sent me flowers yesterday… it made me cry.
∞
Dear Pam,
Today is February...
The Lovely Bones.
I first read The Lovely Bones under guidance from my friend Elizabeth. She gave it to me as a Christmas present, or maybe it was a birthday present. Either way she told me it was wonderful, and given certain circumstances I had to read it. I believe that was Christmas 2005 or my birthday in 2006.
Now that it is 2010, the movie arrived. I wasn’t certain if I should see it or not, but then...
January 2010
4 posts
Five Years.
Today is the five year anniversary of Pam’s missing. She was officially listed as missing January 23, 2005. Five years later it seems we haven’t gotten very far from where it all began. Perhaps that’s because I don’t know how the police department handles things, perhaps it’s because we’ll probably never really know, or perhaps it’s because, even though it...
Another Interview.
When visiting a friend earlier this week, she told me how much she enjoyed the interviews of the book. She said they sounded so professional, and that she was really enjoying reading everything. With a sound opinion expressed, I decided to post another interview. While I am very timid about giving too much of the book away before it ever has a chance to hit the shelves, I know that if I...
A wandering thought.
Lately I have been thinking a lot about my book. Big surprise there. It has been consuming my mind with questions, ideas, concerns… just about everything. I have no updates as of yet. Allison, I hope, is still editing her heart away. I can see receiving my book back through an e-mail with endless notes on the side of Microsoft. However, I’m not dreading it. I’m definitely look...
December 2009
11 posts
A sneak peak...
I just recently received an e-mail from Mrs. Waldher containing some stories and things like that from Pam’s family. It has taken quite a while for her to get back to me, for good reason of course. I have yet to really go through it or even send it to Allison, but I thought, perhaps, I could include some things in a post to attract some more readers. Not to mention, through the memories of...
Update
Right now Allison is still editing my book. I really don’t want to post too many sections from the story part (following mine and Pam’s relationship), because I have a feeling those are the sections that need the most editing. I do, however, need more followers— so please promote the blog! I will find a short section to post soon.
With Allison editing, I am considering...
In the beginning...
The first few months of Pam’s missing are still a blur. Even reading over the letters and journal entries, I can barely bring to mind memories. There was one occasion, it was on Valentine’s Day, when the Missing You Foundation held a sort of awareness news cast in the parking lot of Big Lots. I remember thinking it was such a strange place to raise awareness of a missing person, but then maybe it...
The first letter...
Dear Pam,
I start this letter today, February 2, 2005. You’ve been gone since January 22/23, 2005. It’s hard to go through the day without you here. I’ve missed at least two or three days of school over feeling nauseous, drained out… and just upset. Everyone sympathizes, but they don’t really understand. I think, sometimes, I feel just as oblivious as them.
Peter, Beth,...
An Interview.
· How did you know Pam?
She first signed up for Forensics her freshman year. I was her Forensics coach.
· What was your first impression?
She was quiet, mousey. She sat in the back of the classroom like she didn’t want to draw too much attention to herself. She made friends very easily, though.
· Did you think Pam was responsible? Explain.
...
Editing
For an update on the actual status of the book, it is being put on “hold” as to sending it to publishers and what not. My friend Allison is being kind enough to edit the book and work with me on it so it can be the best it can be. I must add that my mother is also planning on helping once she is settled with my dad and little sister in their new home. Anyway, it’s being edited....
An ending thought...
Losing Pam began the process of finding myself. It was a very long, very slow, very painful process, but something that needed to begin regardless of how it was begun. I remember telling the story of ‘my best friend who went missing’ over and over again to people I knew so well, and yet they didn’t seem to know me at all. I lost a lot of friendships while Pam went missing, and then gained many...
Prologue
It was January 23, 2005. Sunday. I would never forget that day. In the beginning, it didn’t seem that different. We went to church, came home and lounged, and I waited and begged to see the movie with my friend Elizabeth. Though it had been planned all along we would go, movie times had been changed since it was sold out, so we had to go to a late-night showing of the movie. Luckily, so I thought...
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On January 23, 2005 a 16 year old girl went missing from her North Carolina home. Two years later, after little hope of a return, her remains were found in a near-by spot on Fort Bragg. With no clues as to what may have happened, Pamela Mikels Waldher’s case is still open and may never be resolved.
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